Her: "I feel that I wish you would make coffee now."
Him: "I'll make it in just a second."
[Seven minutes elapse as He stares intently at the iPad.]
Her: "I feel that you don't have the same understanding of 'now' as I do."
Him: [realizing the moment is ripe for active listening]
"What I'm hearing is that you want coffee 'now.'"
Her: "You are hearing me correctly."
Him: "What I'm feeling is that you are disappointed in *me* that I have not made coffee now."
Her: "I hear that you are feeling I am disappointed in you. However, I am more disappointed that there is not coffee in my belly."
It's a good thing we are practicing our "active listening" before the wedding.
